Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all others. βCicero
Good morning, Glory!
Roll up your sleeves and letβs dig in!
Last week, I did one of my favorite activitiesβ¦
I spent time thinking about what I want to growβ¦not in my garden,
and not in my relationships, finances, or knowledge.
I asked myself, βWhat do I want to growβ¦in me?β
My responses included courage, self-control, and patience.
But the universe responded by putting Ciceroβs words front and center:
βGratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all others.β
My brain went into question modeβ¦
βWhat if I grew my gratitude practice, would I also find courage, self-control, and patience?β
A three-for-one result?
Count me in!
But first, I had to admit Iβd been neglecting my gratitude practice.
It had become mechanicalβ¦very much a cerebral activityβ¦a mental checklist of things to be grateful for.
Fortunately, I was sitting in my backyard enjoying my gardens overflowing with colorful flowers and vibrant green vegetation when I realizedβ¦
Gratitude, much like a garden, doesnβt always look the same.
While I plant similar flowers and vegetables each season, the garden unfolds into a unique shape and provides an unpredictable yield each year.
Likewise, gratitude is not just about a fixed mindset of being thankful for whatβs right in front of you.
Itβs about tending to different types of gratitudeβeach needing care, nurturing, and patience to blossom in its own unique way.
There are endless varieties of gardens (flowers, vegetables, trees, shrubs)β¦
But in my experience, gratitude comes in three typesβpredictable gratitude, growth gratitude, and βwhat ifβ gratitude.
In every garden, thereβs that one plant that practically grows itselfβzucchini.
Itβs almost guaranteed to yield results, no matter how much you mess with it.
In the same way, predictable gratitude is the kind of gratitude thatβs easy to experience and feels natural.
These are the daily blessings, the simple things that are always around us.
For me, itβs the first rays of sunlight peeking over the fence, or the sweet songs of the early birds as I start my day.
These things bring joy without effort.
And much like the zucchini plant, these opportunities for gratitude are a givenβalways just thereβ¦waiting for us to notice.
You donβt need to think much to harvest this kind of gratitude, because itβs easy to weave into your everyday routine. It could be your morning walk, the steadfast neighbor, or even your job that consistently supports you.
These are the people and experiences that are easy to appreciate.
Itβs the low-maintenance gratitude that can grow effortlessly, just like a zucchini patch.
Growth gratitude takes time. It requires patience, nurturing, and careful attention.
Just like trying to grow a plant youβve never tried beforeβletβs say radishesβit requires a bit more investment.
Last year, I tried growing radishesβ¦it was a bust.
I didnβt thin them out properly. They ended up with lots of showy greenery, but were stunted because they had no room to grow.
I wasnβt discouraged, though. I learned from my mistakes.
This year, I did my homework and also put reminders on my calendar to thin the seedlings at the appropriate time.
Growth gratitude works in much the same way.
Itβs the gratitude that pushes you to stretch beyond your current comfort zone.
Maybe itβs for the new friendships youβre building, the first-time DIY home repair, or the personal challenges youβre facing.
This gratitude feels different because itβs tied to growth. And growth is often uncomfortable.
Youβre not just grateful for whatβs easily available; youβre grateful for the effort, the change, and the progress.
To grow this type of gratitude, you have to put in the work.
Maybe youβre learning to appreciate the struggle itself, or maybe youβre seeing how far youβve come, even when the journey is hard.
This gratitude that isnβt just about immediate resultsβitβs about honoring the process of growth.
You learn to celebrate not just the destination but the steps you take to get there.
Then thereβs βwhat-if gratitude,β the kind that feels like planting something truly specialβlike a Japanese maple.
These trees are beautiful, with their unique color and delicate leaves.
They are breathtaking. But theyβre also finicky. The climate has to be just right, and it takes time to see them grow.
What-if gratitude is connected to dreams, desires, and visions for the futureβthings that feel far out of reach but are worth striving for.
Itβs the gratitude you feel when you consider all the things that could happen in your life, things that are beyond your current reality.
For me, the Japanese maple represents something Iβm working toward.
When I finally planted one in my yard, I knew it would require patience and belief that with nurturing and attention, the tree would thrive.
What-if gratitude can sometimes be intangible.
Itβs the thing you might not have yet but are deeply grateful for in advance.
Maybe itβs the gratitude you feel for your future, or for the inspiring energy of pursuing a new project, relationship, or personal transformation.
Itβs the belief that, in time, this dream will be fully realizedβ¦but what-if gratitude also yields its own seeds of courage, self-control, and patience along the way.
Just like planting a Japanese maple, you may not see immediate results, but you hold on to the possibility that it will one day flourish.
And you harvest gratitude for hope and wisdom in the journey to that day.
When youβre cultivating a garden, each plant needs something different.
The zucchini grows with little care, but you must still seek the fruit.
π± The radishes need more attention and learning from past mistakes.
π± The Japanese maple requires extraordinary patience, but you are rewarded when you reflect on the progress. π±
Similarly, each type of gratitude requires different care depending on the season of life you are in right now.
Experiment with one type of gratitude this week that aligns with your current season.
π±For Predictable Gratitude:
Start by noticing the small things. The sunlight, the steady rhythm of your daily routines, the familiar faces in your life. These are easy to spot and can be expressed daily. Try journaling about these small blessings every morning to set a positive tone for your day.
For Growth Gratitude:π±
Try something new. Track your progress, no matter how small. Reflect on how far youβve come, even if things donβt feel perfect. Write down moments where youβve learned something new or made progress in areas that matter. Recognizing growth helps you honor the effort youβre putting in.
For What-if Gratitude:π±
Create a vision for your future. What are the things you dream of? Take a moment to truly feel grateful for those desires, even before theyβve fully materialized. Celebrate the fact that your dreams are alive, even if theyβre still in the seedling stage.
Gratitude isnβt a one-size-fits-all practice.
Like tending a garden, each type of gratitude requires a different level of attention, nurturing, and patience.
By embracing these three types of gratitudeβpredictable, growth, and what-ifβyouβll find that your gratitude practice can grow in ways you never expected.
And just like a garden, with enough care, it will bloom in the most beautiful ways.
Which type of gratitude you will commit to cultivating this coming week?

Kim Byrne is a life and leadership coach, speaker, and founder of Seeds to Stories. Drawing on her experience in software development, product marketing, entrepreneurship, and major life transitions, she helps women in midlife recognize the beliefs, expectations, and outdated roles keeping them stuck β and find the clarity and courage to create what comes next.
Through her coaching, speaking, and Essays from the Gap, Kim explores the human skills that help us live and lead with greater purpose: curiosity, courage, creativity, connection, and self-trust. Her signature Seeds to Stories approach helps people look beneath the surface, tend what matters, and turn small, intentional choices into meaningful change.
Kim lives in Colorado, loves dogs, tea (an occasional mocha), gardening metaphors, and conversations about what makes an ordinary life extraordinary.
One bi-weekly reflection, on the gap between knowing and doing β and what it actually takes to close it.
One bi-weekly reflection, on the gap between knowing and doing β and what it actually takes to close it.





